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"Sounds like time for some serious "courage...and shuffle the cards".... Maybe".

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On Nov 20, 2004, at 8:16 AM, Dr Sebby wrote:

....alright, dont skin me alive for saying this, but i suspect i am in a relationship problem. this is about the only place i feel free to disclose such personal crap...the virian confessional chamber. here is the situation: laura(snoopy) is a very nice girl, very kind, caring, loving, gorgeous, affectionate, sexual(few b.j.'s but that's not too much of an oddity amongst women in this country), attentive, playful, trustworthy(a big quality let's admit)and devoted. she's 5'3" and 100 lbs...sounds like a perfect woman right? well how can i say this then without sounding like a bastard?...i have become increasingly aware of the fact that she and i have very different outlooks on life. both her parents were struggling immigrants who succeeded in raising 5 daughters in brooklyn NY...hats off to them for that...and they are still together after all these years. but as a result, i sometimes feel that she and i have very different takes on life in general. she seems to focus exclusively on immediate concerns and the nuts and bolts of living....to the extent that it is nearly impossible for me to have an interesting conversation with her...she is interested in talking about immediate issues...from important things like bills and such to other issues like, "that person knows this person, who knows this friend of my friend"...or "it's really warm out today"...or "this person said this about this person"...all of these unknowns being people or things which we arent connected with at all. i, on the other hand tend to live in the more dreamy side of life...i like to b.s. about politics, philosophy, interpretive analysis of history(recent and present) and any variety of 'what if' situations...all of which are likely useless in a real sense, but i love them. as a result, i am becoming increasingly bored of our combination...and i'm really not sure what to do. is this an insurmountable problem? if we could pick and choose the qualities in a mate that we would like to marry, i would pull about 80% of her...but the remaining 20% is a big one...intellectual compatibility. what does the virus engine think?

advice?


DrSebby.
"Courage...and shuffle the cards".


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