After several sessions of discussing this in IRC, I have come to this bitter realization. I gave you bad advice, or at least I left out the most important advice. See several people have been arguing that 80% is okay, indeed above average, so who are you to complain? And this finally forced me into the stark reality of the situation. Yeah, 80% is fine depending on what that was 80% of. . . . some have urged that BJ's are "fleeting", or "ephemeral" compared to your lofty thoughts and now I find myself possessed of this pro-BJ argument. Yes BJ's certainly are ephemeral, but they are still in the category of "sex" no matter what Bill Clinton may have argued otherwise at some ephemeral moment, and sex is always a deal-maker/breaker. So I think that if 80% simply means you don't get all the mental BS that you seek, you can probably live with it, but if 80% means that you don't get X number of blowjobs necessary for your sexual satisfaction then it is absolutely unforgivable. You can give her a few days to figure it out, but if not, then change women ASAP!! I bet you won't even care about the philosophical bullshit anymore once she complies with your sexual needs like that, and even if you do, you can at least solve the rest of that problem a little more leisurly.