From: Michelle Anderson (michelle@barrymenasherealtors.com)
Date: Fri Jan 23 2004 - 09:30:09 MST
[Eric] There's a memetic advantage to having an empowered woman:
Empowered kids.
[Michelle] That's right, and also I know several American men who have
no respect for other American men who look to "foreign" women
exclusively: they feel they must be too weak to handle an empowered
woman. It's the "easy route". I know that my own social bias is that
if I see an American man with, say, an Asian woman, I assume that he
must be a loser who can't take care of himself, given the often-correct
reputation that Asian women are more submissive and coddling. I
personally would never waste my considerable gifts on a man who couldn't
stand up and hold his own. And I've been happily living for the past
five years with an American man who would sooner die alone than be
perceived (and perceive himself) as one who could only couple with a
weak-willed coddler.
It's also interesting to note that many black Americans complain of
black men seeking white women for the same reason - that they/we demand
less and aren't as vocal or sassy as black women.
Then again, we all know that women in other cultures must be just as
strong to handle the social treatment inherent in their part of the
world. I think the issue is sneakyness (tongue in cheek on that term -
perhaps subtlety is more diplomatic). A woman who's used to being
second-guessed and criticized will simply assert her will in subliminal
ways. Y'all men have no idea how much influence your partner can have
over you without your noticing. That's in addition to the stuff you DO
notice. Mwoohaahahahahahaaaa.
:)
Michelle
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