From: Jei (jei@cc.hut.fi)
Date: Fri Jan 23 2004 - 14:24:47 MST
On Fri, 23 Jan 2004, Michelle Anderson wrote:
> [Jei] Anyways, I don't see why anyone would prefer being dominated
> to being the dominator in a relationship. - In western societies women
> are wanted. - They are free and get to do the choice. - Men on the other
> hand are more or less forced to compete for them (unless they're in the
> top 5% hunks or so.) -> Hence they can be dominated or dumped in western
> societies. - In less civilized places women really need the men, hence
> they take care of them.
>
> Only when women begin to feel insecure in their chances of securing a
> man, will they submit to being dominated in western societies. I can see
> many advantages in non-american women. - Although it may be a matter of
> pride for some to dominate an american woman,
> - however real that domination then actually is, is another matter.
>
> Speaking in crude generalities, of course, and naturally assuming that
> we all wish to rule our world.
>
> [Michelle] What about not dominating or be dominated but having an equal
> partnership? In my relationship, we each give lip service to the
> other's superficial needs to be perceived as dominant - ie, he does the
> car stuff, the heavy lifting, etc., even though I'm quite capable, and I
> do the kitchen stuff, the cleaning, the nurturing, even though he's
> quite capable, and we enjoy this little game we play - but then when it
> comes down to anything of importance, we are utter equals and bow to
> each other's areas of expertise and experience. It IS possible...
I agree, it can work, but then you would need to find your
mate among those with the necessary intelligence and moral
understanding of the concepts. - Which depend on upbringing,
the social environment, personal values and experiences.
In some places such people can be really rare birds. -
Depends also where and how you look, I guess. - Also one
can ponder if equality is a desirable feature for one's
relationship? Aggressive behaviour attracts some females,
instinctively looking for the big "pack leader" to whom they
submit. - And I know some people who would rather be alone
than submit to any man (or a woman) in anything. I guess
it all depends on one's personality and finding the right
fit.
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